nah I think we should really stop glorifying cigarettes
People like to play too many games. Many relish in the idea of gaining control over you and your emotions. It’s childish.
That is why you should never, ever let them see you sweat.
Comparing yourself to others does nothing but lower your self esteem.
Focus on your own strengths, not others.
Received a 95 on a midterm.
My professor curved it by 3 points, and now it’s a 98!
Hey! I started from rock bottom—It took me years to build confidence and I am still gaining it to be honest, but thank you by the way. This may sound cliché, but this confidence honestly comes from God. I am the daughter of a King and that alone to me means that I am unique, wonderfully and fearfully made, and I have purpose.
I also realised long ago that if I constantly find myself comparing my worth or my accomplishments to other women then my self-esteem suffers. I know that I have many things to offer. We all do. I also know that I am worthy, and I like to affirm all of these positive things as well.
I also think it’s important to tackle any fears or anxieties—and that is truly a powerful way to gaining confidence. When you can get over those hurdles, you realise how capable you really are of wonderful things. Any intimidation is essentially fear and that brings forth anxiety. If other women intimidate you, you have to face it head on and take more proactive steps to tackle it.
Start by focusing on you and your potential by doing things that make you are great at. Commit to talents that allow you to shine. You can still learn from those women, but it’s important not to worry about them. At the end of the day, those women you are intimidated by aren’t worried about or are sweating you. That probably sounded harsh, but someone personally hit me with the hard truth. Also, it’s great that you recognise that you do great things, but you also have to believe in your greatness—because anyone can claim one thing, yet not fully embrace it!
I wish you the best :-)
Lips so round
Baby, how can’t I be down?
— India.Arie - Brown Skin (via onmypace)
The only connection you should have with the sin in your past is the testimony of how God delivered you from it. Your past is not your future. You are not defined by who you once were, but by who you are becoming in Christ.
Black women are so beautiful. I’m really lucky to be amongst such gorgeousness. Truly, blogging you guys has brought me such great self esteem. Black women are light. I am too proud.
This time last year I was unemployed, broke, and suicidal.
Today, I just got the keys to my first house.
Give it time.
Needed this today
when you hear people preach that it gets better, they aren’t joking. if it’s not better yet, it will be.
this post could literally be saving lives rn and that is why i love this website.
It is interesting to realise that the people who stare at you in class happen to be friends of your ex.
Like all of this time, the same two girls would persistently stare and I couldn’t figure out why, or put a face to a name until just recently when I saw them with other people that I knew by association. Then I had an epiphany: Those girls are his friends.
Thing is, the breakup between my ex and I was between him and I—not us and them. And I don’t want my ex in that way anymore. I don’t have any negative feelings either. Nor am I broken or falling apart. Or wishing he was mine and I was still his (which makes me really emotional to say considering everything in the past). I still care for him, but not in that way. And today, I realised just that. I’m doing pretty okay.
To the girls who stare, I guess I should be flattered that you look so concerned about what doesn’t really concern you.
I am healing. I am moving on.
God has been speaking so much to me this week.
I have been receiving confirmation after confirmation.